What kind of friend are you?

Friendly all the time! A true friend loves us during the hard times as well as the good.

Proverbs 17:7 “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. 18 A man void of understanding striketh hands, and becometh surety in the presence of his friend.”

Proverbs 27: 10Thine own friend , and thy father’s friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother’s house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off.”

Friendly first! A true friend is friendly first, rather then waiting for others to approach him first.

Proverbs 18: 24 “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

Friendly giving! True friendship is given and not bought. You can’t buy true friendship. Give and you may get. Don’t be friendly to get. You can’t make someone your friend.

Proverbs 19:6 “Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that giveth gifts.” — but not true friends!

Friendly honest advice! A true friends tells us what they believe is best for us because they care what happens to us.

Proverbs 22:6 “Faithful are the wounds of a friend ; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”

Proverbs 27: 9 “Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man’s friend by hearty counsel.

Accountability. It is something that we all need. We were created for community. We all need support. Sometimes we need to hear the brutal truth. We can’t do life alone.


We all need friends. Not ‘frenemies’ or the kind of friends who talk about you when you aren’t around, but real true friends. How can you tell if someone is a true friend?


But sometimes really good friends, you know the kind who will tell you when you have a giant hole in the back of your pants or a piece of broccoli in your teeth, can be tough to find. If you have these kind of friends, be thankful because most of us know that true and real friendship is a rare thing.


Ecclesiastes 4:9-12          9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.


We are stronger together. We need to have friends who love us, but will also be honest with us when we need to hear a hard truth. Being a friend and always nodding and smiling and agreeing isn’t really being a friend. The test of a true friend is whether they will tell you when you are wrong.


Maybe you have been a real jerk this week and being awful to the people around you – a real friend will pull you aside and say ‘Hey, is everything ok? I’m worried about you. You are kinda being a jerk’.

Holding each other accountable doesn’t mean that you take cheap shots or tell each other every single time you do something wrong.

Holding someone accountable begins with loving them and truly caring for them; wanting them to be a better person and expecting the same from them when you are struggling.

Now here is what accountability is not – It isn’t getting together with others and sharing with them how you saw someone screw up. That’s just gossip. Accountability is going directly to the person and caring for them.

Friends are great but, Jesus is the greatest friend ever!!

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One Response to “What kind of friend are you?”

  1. DocMonty Says:

    Thus my confirmation. I’m preaching Sunday morning at Blue Ridge Biker Church in Asheville and again Sunday night at Lake Junaluska Baptist in Clyde. Guess what the title of my sermon is? Friends. Love you. Stay blessed.

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